How Dentistry Affects the People You Love: Part 2

Why Dental Professionals Struggle With Emotional Availability

By: Dr. Sable Muntean


After a long day at the office, itโ€™s natural to feel drained. But when fatigue becomes emotional distance, relationships begin to suffer.

Emotional availabilityโ€”the ability to be fully present and engaged with the people you loveโ€”is critical for maintaining strong connections, yet itโ€™s often overlooked in the dental profession.

Being a dental professional means carrying an unusual mental load. Youโ€™re constantly making high-stakes decisions, managing patient care, leading staff, and balancing a busy schedule.

By the end of the day, your energy may feel depleted, leaving you physically home but emotionally absent.

Missed part 1? Check out, How Dentistry Quietly Changes Your Relationships


Why Emotional Availability Can Be Challenging

  • Decision Fatigue: Every patient interaction, procedure, and leadership decision requires intense focus. This mental fatigue reduces your capacity to engage meaningfully at home.
  • High Responsibility: Beyond patient care, running a practice involves accounting, scheduling, staff management, and compliance. The constant weight of responsibility can make it hard to transition to personal life.
  • Emotional Exhaustion: Dentistry is emotionally demanding. Comforting anxious patients, handling emergencies, and dealing with high expectations can leave your emotional reserves empty by the time you step out of the office.
  • Compounding Stress: Emotional distance at home can create guilt, which in turn adds stressโ€”forming a feedback loop that makes it even harder to be present.

The Impact on Relationships

  • Misunderstandings or conflicts with partners and family members
  • Feeling disconnected from friends or children
  • Missed opportunities for bonding or shared experiences
  • Accumulated tension that makes small disagreements escalate

Actionable Strategies to Improve Emotional Availability

  1. Set Boundaries: Commit to leaving work-related thoughts at the office whenever possible. Physically step away from emails and calls during family time.
  2. Check-In Rituals: Even a 5โ€“10 minute daily conversation with a partner or child can create meaningful connection. Ask about their day before talking about yours.
  3. Mindfulness Practice: Journaling, meditation, or even a few deep breaths at the start or end of the day helps you process work stress and reset your emotional state.
  4. Communicate Openly: Let your loved ones know you may be tired but still care about connecting. Honest acknowledgment goes a long way.

Next week, weโ€™ll explore the guilt dental professionals feel toward their partners and familiesโ€”and provide practical ways to manage it without adding more stress.

Sable Muntean

Sable Muntean

Chief Editor of the GetLit Newsletter for igniteDDS.com. Dr. Sable Muntean is a native of California, having attended college at the University of Southern California. She then graduated from LECOM School of Dental Medicine in Florida, simultaneously earning her degrees as a Doctor of Dental Medicine and Master in Health Services Administration. She continued her training at Southern Illinois University's School of Dental Medicine, where she completed a year-long Advanced Education in General Dentistry Residency, followed by another year in an Implant Fellowship. After some time in private practice, Dr. Muntean is now proudly serving as the first full-time female staff dentist at the St. Louis VA Medical Center taking care of local veterans. In 2020 she was inducted into the esteemed Pierre Fauchard Academy, and most recently was selected as a recipient of the 2023 American Dental Association's Top 10 Under 10 Award.