How Dentistry Affects the People You Love: Part 3

The Guilt Dental Professionals Feel Toward Their Partners and Families

By: Dr. Sable Muntean


Guilt is a common, yet often unspoken, challenge for dental professionals. It creeps in when you miss family events, work long hours, or feel emotionally unavailable at home. Over time, this guilt can quietly affect your mental health and strain your most important relationships.

Understanding the source of your guiltโ€”and how to respond to itโ€”is crucial for creating balance between your professional and personal life.


Missed parts 1 & 2? Check out,
How Dentistry Quietly Changes Your Relationships
Why Dental Professionals Struggle With Emotional Availability


Common Sources of Guilt

  • Missed Milestones: Birthdays, anniversaries, school events, and social gatherings often take a backseat to your professional commitments.
  • Working Beyond Scheduled Hours: Extra shifts, emergencies, or practice management tasks can make you feel like youโ€™re neglecting family.
  • Emotional Absence: Even when physically present, mental fatigue can leave you disengaged during conversations or activities.

How Guilt Shows Up

  • Overcompensating with gifts or gestures instead of meaningful time
  • Heightened irritability or defensiveness with loved ones
  • Self-criticism and โ€œshould haveโ€ thoughts that add stress

Practical Strategies to Manage Guilt

  1. Acknowledge It: Recognize that guilt is a normal emotion, but it doesnโ€™t define your value as a partner or family member.
  2. Schedule Connection Time: Treat family time like a non-negotiable appointment. Protect it in your calendar just as you would a patient or staff meeting.
  3. Communicate Clearly: Let your partner or family know your limitations and commitments. Transparency builds trust and reduces misunderstandings.
  4. Reframe Your Perspective: Instead of focusing on what you missed, prioritize the moments you are present and fully engaged.

Next week, weโ€™ll focus on building stronger relationships without leaving dentistry. Youโ€™ll learn strategies to protect and enhance your personal life while thriving in your career.

Sable Muntean

Sable Muntean

Chief Editor of the GetLit Newsletter for igniteDDS.com. Dr. Sable Muntean is a native of California, having attended college at the University of Southern California. She then graduated from LECOM School of Dental Medicine in Florida, simultaneously earning her degrees as a Doctor of Dental Medicine and Master in Health Services Administration. She continued her training at Southern Illinois University's School of Dental Medicine, where she completed a year-long Advanced Education in General Dentistry Residency, followed by another year in an Implant Fellowship. After some time in private practice, Dr. Muntean is now proudly serving as the first full-time female staff dentist at the St. Louis VA Medical Center taking care of local veterans. In 2020 she was inducted into the esteemed Pierre Fauchard Academy, and most recently was selected as a recipient of the 2023 American Dental Association's Top 10 Under 10 Award.